{"id":36001,"date":"2017-04-10T00:42:34","date_gmt":"2017-04-10T07:42:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/2017\/04\/being-too-hard-on-yourself-creates-a-dangerous-feedback-loop"},"modified":"2017-06-04T07:05:33","modified_gmt":"2017-06-04T14:05:33","slug":"being-too-hard-on-yourself-creates-a-dangerous-feedback-loop","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/2017\/04\/being-too-hard-on-yourself-creates-a-dangerous-feedback-loop","title":{"rendered":"Being Too Hard on Yourself Creates a Dangerous Feedback Loop"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Self-sabotage is a fascinating topic<\/a>. Philosophically speaking, the impetus for every human action is the pursuit of some form of happiness. Why, then, do so many people purposely handicap themselves when striving for goals? What pushes someone to believe they don\u2019t deserve and therefore shouldn\u2019t have happiness?<\/p>\n

Most research on this subject points to self-esteem. We like to think of ourselves as the heroes of our own story<\/a>, a perspective influenced and informed by our reliance on narrative to create meaning in our lives. When we observe fault in ourselves, it can lead to a conscious or subconscious belief that we are unworthy heroes. Some people are better at dealing with these feelings than others. Those who aren\u2019t tend to overlook the fact that no human is or can be perfect, and that heroes are as much the sum of their faults as they are the breadth of their positive qualities.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s also the fact that, in any hero\u2019s journey, failure is part of growth. Indiana Jones doesn\u2019t save the day until after he\u2019s captured by the Nazis. Luke Skywalker doesn\u2019t defeat the bad guys without first losing a hand. Princess Elsa screws up a whole bunch before she\u2019s strong enough to let it go, as it were.<\/p>\n

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Self-sabotage is a fascinating topic. Philosophically speaking, the impetus for every human action is the pursuit of some form of happiness. Why, then, do so many people purposely handicap themselves when striving for goals? What pushes someone to believe they don\u2019t deserve and therefore shouldn\u2019t have happiness? Most research on this subject points to self-esteem. [\u2026]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":367,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-36001","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-futurism"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36001","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/367"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=36001"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36001\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":58122,"href":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36001\/revisions\/58122"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=36001"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=36001"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lifeboat.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=36001"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}